The 411 on sexting

Sexting can be an exhilarating way to flirt and build anticipation with your partner. However, it’s always a good idea to start with some playful banter to gauge your partner’s comfort level before proceeding in this direction, remember consent is sexy.

First things first, sexting involves two types of medium: verbal and visual. For verbal sexting we recommend to read up on some erotica, although the lingo can be a bit over the top, it can give you a good idea about verbal foreplay and help you build-up to the climax via text. Verbal sexting should be playful, where you slowly tease your partner. You can describe a fantasy, use a memory, or creatively express what you want. For example, describe where you enjoy being touched. Verbal sexting gets exciting when both parties take turn being the narrator, this will help you both deepen your intimacy.

As for visual sexting, it can be deemed as either arousing or downright creepy. However there are a few things you should keep in mind. If you’re taking a photo or video make sure you take it in a way that keeps you the most digitally safe (i.e. keep your face and other distinguishing features out of the view). Photos or videos can be forwarded to countless others, so think twice before sending something you might regret. Now, just because someone sends you an unsolicited nude doesn’t mean that you are obligated to send them an image of yourself in return.

Always remember that sexting is meant to entice and build arousal through digital foreplay until you both agree to physically make a move. It shouldn’t be sent to someone who doesn’t explicitly express their interest. If the conversation gets uncomfortable at any time, you should establish a safe word or simply tell your partner that it went beyond your comfort zone and they should respect that.